“Turning Pain into Power: How Do You Cope When Hurt by Those You Love?”

Even as a career coach for many and a cheerleader for most, I have my rough days. Life isn’t always smooth, and no matter how much positivity I try to radiate, I face hurt and anger just like anyone else.

Hurt can be defined as the emotional pain we feel when we are let down by others. It’s that sting you feel when someone says something careless or acts in a way that makes you feel less valued. For example, imagine working hard to support a friend’s goal, only to find they dismiss your efforts or don’t show appreciation. That kind of experience can leave a mark.

Anger is a natural emotional response to feeling wronged or misunderstood. It often surfaces when boundaries are crossed, or expectations aren’t met. For instance, when someone you deeply care about continually disregards your feelings, it can lead to frustration, resentment, and eventually, anger.

But what do we do with these feelings? How do we cope when the people we care about cause us pain?

For me, I choose to pray, meditate, and channel my emotions elsewhere. These practices help me center myself and look at the situation from a different perspective, allowing me to heal rather than hold onto the hurt or anger.

Here are a few ways I cope and that you might find helpful too:

Prayer or Meditation: Take a moment to pause and connect with your higher self or with God. This helps me find peace and clarity when emotions are running high.

Creative Outlet: I channel my feelings into something productive. For example, writing in my journal, creating content, or even working on a new project helps turn my energy into something positive.

Physical Activity: When I feel overwhelmed with hurt or anger, sometimes a simple walk, workout, or dance session releases the tension. Movement has a way of grounding us.

Talk It Out: Sometimes, a trusted friend or coach can help you gain perspective. Sharing your thoughts and hearing a different viewpoint may provide insight that allows healing to begin.

Now, it’s your turn:

How do you cope when someone you care about causes you pain?

Do you retreat to a quiet place to reflect?
Do you find strength in expressing yourself creatively?
Do you have a routine to help you process emotions?
Share your strategies below, and let’s help each other grow through the hurt, not stay stuck in it. Sometimes, the greatest lessons are born out of our most challenging emotions. 💪✨

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