Am I a Good Judge of Character?
Are you a good judge of character?
I’ve learned that being a good judge of character isn’t about spotting flaws it’s about recognizing patterns.
For a long time, I judged people by their words, their potential, and the version of them I hoped would show up. That wasn’t intuition failing me; that was empathy overriding discernment. Growth taught me the difference.
Now, I pay attention to consistency.
Follow-through.
How people behave when they’re uncomfortable, inconvenienced, or unobserved.
I don’t need perfection from people but I do need alignment. And I’ve learned that when actions and values don’t match, it’s information, not an invitation to fix, rescue, or explain things away.
Being a good judge of character doesn’t mean I never misjudge. It means I correct faster. I listen the first time behavior speaks. I stop rewriting stories for people who keep showing me who they are.
That discernment didn’t come from theory.
It came from reflection.
From writing things out.
From revisiting situations honestly.
From asking myself better questions instead of making excuses for red flags.
That’s why I journal not to relive moments, but to understand them.
My journals are designed for exactly this kind of clarity: helping you process experiences, recognize patterns, and trust yourself again without becoming guarded or hardened. They aren’t about blaming others; they’re about strengthening your internal compass.
If you’re doing the work of growth, boundaries, and self-trust, those tools are available in my Stan store:
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They’re for the person who’s tired of saying, “I should’ve listened to myself,” and is ready to start saying, “I did and I acted accordingly.”
Because being a good judge of character isn’t about suspicion.
It’s about self-respect.
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